When I was in seventh grade, I noticed a remarkable phenomenon; my boobs started growing! I was excited to finally have something there. Unfortunately, that was not the start, but rather the end of them growing. I am as small as they come. A 32A…how embarrassing. I feel like I should still be wearing a training bra or something. I mean, what am I going to do? Get a boob job? (Well…maybe). When I talk about being a girl with small boobs,
I mean no boobs.
If you have a B cup, in my books you’re blessed. When you have small boobs people may try to compliment you with things like ‘Oh, but they make you look really skinny’. Are you freaking kidding me? ‘They will get bigger, trust me.’ Except, I am 23. No, they won’t. My personal favorite ‘You can wear anything you want’ Yeah you’r right, I can…but I will look like a 12 year old boy while I’m at it.
The fact is, it’s really hard to feel sexy when you don’t have boobs. You feel inferior to others. For instance, I love boating, but I hate taking pictures when I’m in a bikini. I don’t hate my body, and I have confidence, but it’s harder to maintain that confidence when everyone in the picture has boobs except for you. You could be a total 10, but you know guys are noticing that you are the one that is lacking up top. I can’t begin to tell you how many articles I’ve read about getting a bikini that will flatter your small chest. None of them work, and to be honest, I end up crying in the dressing room each spring.
A lot of clothes are not flattering on me. Most clothes actually emphasize how small my boobs truly are. Where there should be cleavage, there is just a bra…and it sucks. Some girls have suggested a push up bra. I went to Victoria Secret and tried on every single one, but sadly it doesn’t work if there is nothing to push up. There is a common misconception that small chested women can go everywhere without a bra. We can, but we look like we are in elementary school.
Let’s get on a subject that is close to every woman’s heart, men. We should be confident in who we are, but let’s face it; What guys say to us is very influential. It can completely make our day or leave a huge scar on our ego. A guy told me once that I didn’t have boobs. Of course, I just laughed it off, what else was I supposed to do? Cry? Well, I did a lot of that later. What about when you’re kissing a really hot guy and you know he is going to feel you up? Well, the only thing he is going to be grabbing is your bra. I am hoping at this point he can’t tell the difference. You’ll never let a guy take your shirt off because you know he’ll be looking forward to boobs.
Boobs that don’t exist.
I wish I had a great all-encompassing piece of advice that would make you small-chested beauties out there see yourself in a more positive light. I wish I could make you see how beautiful you are. I wish society wouldn’t focus so much on boobs. But I can’t change those things. My only hope is that you can see yourself for more than your body and that you can accept the truly smart, kind, and extraordinary person you have the potential to live up to. Those things are within your power. And as for the boobs? F*ck it, and let those puppies free.
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Hey finally I’m glad someone encompassed exactly how I feel. I’m a 20 with a 34A and as much as people tell me i shouldn’t care, I do. This entire post has been my whole life thank you for letting me not feel alone
I feel the same. Sometimes I want a boob job but don’t think I could go through with it. It’s tough
Don’t get implants. They are ALL toxic at some point. There are thousands who get very ill from them and the rest well they are just ignoring the signs because they are vain. I had implants for 9 years, saline because they were “safest” but not true. They are out now and that costed more than putting them in and now I have an even less attractive chest then before I started. I was a 32 AA before went to a full B now without implants I’m concave and no breast.
Advice on men – certain guys/cultures prefer butts. Find them instead! I’ve always been self conscious of my A cups but some guys, including my husband, really don’t give a sh** about your boob size cuz that’s not what they’re attracted to.
This sums up everything I’ve felt my whole life all the way to literally saying that I look like a malnourished 12-year old boy. I’m 25 and have been told that they will still grow….hmmm. Thank you for your post, it is very empowering!
I feel exactly the same way that you all do. It’s humiliating to be a woman without half of the physical attributes that associate you as one! No matter what anyone said, trying to butter me up about it, I don’t believe a friggin word of it because they either HAVE breasts or that person is a guy and doesn’t understand. And why don’t I believe the men who say this? Well gee, because I’m not stupid.
The only advice I have as a 33 year old woman with 32A breasts is to accept the fact that God forgot something and to try not to dwell on it. Remember how many of us out there that are going through the same things, many of us with cancer even without so much as a nipple (true survivors), and just try to live life to the fullest without them! It sucks, yes. But count your other blessings and…..BELIEVE YOU’RE NOT ALONE OUT THERE! I love you all.
I want to say something to every woman out there that think because they have small or indeed apparently what some may refer to a boobless breasts, you are absolutely perfect! I am a man who sees small or very small breasted women as the most exotic beautiful creatures God ever graced the earth with. I have had occasion to have respectfully experienced intimacy were large breasted women and for me personally, those Hooters were far, far to much to handle or even to look at! I know you’re saying: “Well, he’s a guy, what the hell does he know” right? Well you’re right I am a guy, all guy, all day so I’ll tell you this! When I see a mature grown woman with small breasts I for one see the ultimate in beauty! Girls let me say it out loud “Flaunt what you don’t think you have but you do” men like me adore women like you! So hoping to meet you, that would make my dream come true.
I dont have breast tissue at all! My nipples are what stand out on my chest. I can’t even fit an “A” bra. I’m 41years and i thought as time went on I’d get over my insecurities but i havent. Every day has been a struggle, god forbid going shopping for bras, tops, swimming attire , i can never bend over in case top gaps around the neck line and bra cup gap is exposed. God forbid using chicken fillet bra inserts, they either show at top of bra whrn bending down or fall out or due to non breathing attributes to them you can get fungal irritation where youve sweat through out the day without giving them a break. God forbid dating a guy and risk him feeling you up, god forbid your friends having summer parties or any social occasion where dresses or swimming togs are expected. BUT- apparently the government fund breast cancer patients to have their breasts replaced to make them feel “normal” so that they dont feel deformed, and they also fund breast augmentation for female trans gender who are born and trapped in a male body so that their insecurities and body image meet their desired gender! Sorry but i am a female who never got her boobs chopped off and im not a male but i too am insecure about not feeling my born gender.
I’m a guy who, in my “not understanding” guy brain has been attracted to women with smaller breasts my whole life. After reading this article and comments, all I can say is wow. Where did our society go so wrong. How sad for a 34 year old woman to think she is missing half of what makes her a woman because she is a size 32A. I hope she realizes nothing positive will come from her distorted body image, and she makes peace with her sexy little boobs soon, and keeps them natural. What do Kate Moss, Elle Fanning, Kelly Ripa, Tara Lipinski, Eliza Coupe, Miranda Cosgrove and Debra Messing have in common? They are all smoking hot small breasted women who wear a size 32A bra. As a final thought, I will quote poster # 7 Dale, as sage a Wise Man as there ever was. “Flaunt what you don’t think you have but you do” translation guys love it when you go braless wearing one of our t-shirts.
Well said Jim!
All I can say is, listen to Dale and Jim. We men are all different too with many of us – including myself, hugely turned on and attracted to “slight” builds. Yep, flatter the better (SEXIER!!). Men don’t all want / desire the same any more than women do. Know that YOU, are gorgeous, just the way you are because we men folk are as diverse in our preferences as you are diverse in your being and body. ~~ Love 😉
Just love yourself