20 Warning Signs That Your Relationship Has Run Its Course

Here’s the thing, relationships can be great: falling in love, flowers, fancy dates, all of that good stuff. We all long to have that special someone who we can do all these cute things with. But as you know, it’s not all fun and games. They can also be tough, and even require a TON of effort to keep up. Sometimes they can even be toxic, but most people tend not to notice or just pretend not to notice. Many of the relationships I’ve gone through involved a series of warning signs to the relationship’s downfall. After my last relationship ended, I looked back on all the things that he had done to me that signified bad boyfriend behavior. I wished that I had ended it sooner, but I was naïve and didn’t know what a That’s why it’s important to look out for these warning signs when dating.

1. They constantly hide their phone when texting, especially when sitting right next to you. 

2. You focus too much on trying to change their habits instead of focusing on bettering the relationship as a whole.

3. They don’t know how to balance their time with you and their friends; it’s always their friends first.

4. You find it difficult to have deep discussions. You’re scared to bring up important conversations like the future or something you’re uncomfortable with because they’re reaction is always indifferent and they seem not to care. 

5. You are the only one doing all the work in the relationship: i.e. making the phone calls, starting the conversations, planning dates.

6. It’s more about sex than love.

7. He constantly talks about other girls/past relationships.

8. When their ex resurfaces and they bring them back into their life or don’t try to reassure you it’s nothing.

9. You argue about the same things over and over without ever resolving them.

10. They become meaner when they’re drunk.

11. They constantly make you feel guilty for thinking things are going wrong (This is an important warning sign of emotional abuse). 

12. They put you down in front of others.

13. This person doesn’t like your friends so they never hang out with you and them.

14. They exhibit unpredictable mood swings. 

15. They never tell anyone about you and avoid any mention of you in their social media (Possible sign of cheating).

16. They tell you they don’t like what you’re wearing so you have to change.

17. You’re lying to your best friends to make it seem better when they ask about you two.

18. They “can’t handle” you during your tough times, only when you’re happy. 

19. You’re constantly going back and forth between thinking it can work and knowing it’s not working.

20. You’re more sad than happy overall.

It’s hard to sweep these issues under the rug, especially for a long-term relationship. It just doesn’t work and you can’t hold on to something that doesn’t even have trust as a base. All the person does is suck the life out of you, and that’s definitely not a sign of a healthy relationship. If you feel like these warning signs are clear in your relationship, it’s time to cut them loose. Don’t lose yourself trying to find someone else.

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