Are you an adult, or are you still a teenager? When you hit your twenties, people start expecting things from you. I am twenty-two, and I don’t understand how people have their life figured out already. I mean, I am all over the map. I don’t even know what I want in my coffee half of the time. But, guess what? A lot of us feel this way.
If you accept these six things, life is a lot easier.
- Friends come and go. You will lose some.
Yes. You will. And that’s ok. A lot of friends are made in high school, and once you’re out of your hometown you grow apart. Remember, your true friends are people you don’t see everyday but they still love you. I have learned it’s much better to have a few close friends, than a big group of people who don’t know much about you.
- Don’t compare yourself to others.
A lot of my Facebook friends are buying houses and getting engaged. Meanwhile, I am still working on my career and drinking with the other single girls. But, you know what, that’s totally fine! You’re only in your twenties and you have plenty of time to settle down. Don’t sweat the small stuff and enjoy the time you have now before you’re settled down and can’t!
- You still have time to find your dream job.
I have plenty of friends who have gone to school and realized what they studied is not what they want to do. I have friends who have dropped out of college or university, and went back. I also know people who have graduated and can’t find a job. These days employers expect you to have 10 years of experience when you JUST graduated college (hello, that’s impossible)! So, when you do get a job… Good for you!
- Forget about the 10-year plan.
Trust me, I had a plan and learned the hard way that it won’t always happen the way you intended it to. Life changes daily. Some people expect you to know exactly what you want to do with the rest of your life. I still have no clue. My word of advice is to stop worrying and enjoy the here and now. Things will fall into place sooner or later. Something I tell myself daily is that people are going through a lot more than I am. I like to think of my life as an adventure. If I knew where my life would be in ten years, would I want to know? No, I wouldn’t. Where’s the surprise in that. You’re young! Stop worrying!
- Don’t go through it alone.
Talk to your friends and family. Chances are they have felt the same way you have. Don’t be afraid to speak up and ask for advice. Everyone has their doubts and that’s totally normal!
- Your life is not a movie or novel.
If you compare your life to a movie or novel, you will be miserable. If you compare your relationship to a movie or novel, it will set it up for failure. Live in the now. Be happy. One day you’ll look back and wish you were still in your twenties.
These are tips I try and follow on a regular basis. Sometimes, when I’m about to have a meltdown I like to take a step back and remember I still have a lot of years ahead of me. If that job isn’t working out, that’s okay! I have plenty of other opportunities out there. If my friend is married, and looks like she has her life together, that’s okay! I will get there. It’s okay to have meltdowns, and mess up. That’s life, and the adventure is fun.
If you have any advice, comment below!
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This is very useful to me as I am student and 20 yrs old. Sometimes I feel depressed about it