Sex. A great word, some people’s favorite word and some people’s favorite exercise. Whether you have a boyfriend or just the casual hookup every once in awhile, you know what I mean when I say… that you cannot wait until the sexy time rolls along. With various positions, different foreplay, and props, that sex game can always be changed up to an exciting level, and that’s exactly what I’m gonna’ talk about: the game changer.
For some of you readers, you may know exactly what you like and so you skip the plain Jane sex and get right into the kinky Fifty Shades of Grey scenes, but for others, you may take your time and that’s the entire point of this article.
Do you remember the first time you had sex with your boyfriend? The last time? Or the fifth time? Most of you will maybe say yes to the first two, but what I want to touch upon is the last section: the fifth time. In the beginning of a relationship, most people spend their nights in the normal positions and the occasional relaxing and yet romantic experience, but when that shifts, it’s the greatest thing in the entire world.
Having romantic sex is always nice, don’t get me wrong, but the kind of sex I want to talk about is the sex where you feel like you’re in a movie. Like you’re Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele. The kinky, moving and tiring sex: the game changer.
When in a relationship you’re always looking for new and exciting things to do, whether that is to do with a date night, how to re-decorate your apartment or things to do in the bedroom. It is a known fact the people get bored and not everyone likes the same old, plain Jane sexual activities. So what do you do about it? How does it change?
Step one: Have a conversation.
This is a big one because when you are in a relationship, communication is key. You want to be on the same page and if your partner doesn’t want to change the game, you may be out of luck. So having this conversation and keeping both parties interested is the best way to get started.
Step two: Do your research.
This doesn’t mean going on your computer and looking up statistics, this means doing your research of what you like the best. Try a few things out and maybe a take a trip to the Stag shop and spend some cash. You’ll never know what you like until you give it a try.
Step three: Eliminate.
If you do not like it, for the love of god, speak up. Do not play the “it’s okay” card… that is the worst thing to do. If you try it and actually hate changing the game then that is more than okay, just make sure to speak up and tell your partner. And don’t be afraid, because he may hate it too and are wanting you to speak up. Communication is key everyone!
Step Four: The Jackpot
When you find something that works for the two of you, you have hit the jackpot. And although you have reached the jackpot, be careful because you’ll have to go back to step three: elimination, every once in awhile, once you get bored again.
This four-step checklist will improve not only your sex life but your relationship in general. It will improve your communication and your level of intimacy. Your relationship will practically be brand new. Follow these steps and enjoy your new and improved relationship!!
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