Love is a beautifully, wild and life changing thing we get to experience in life. It teaches us, helps us grow and allows us the chance to be apart of something incredible that often words alone can’t describe. As lovely as love can be there are things we all should know about it and so here are 9 important lessons about just that.
Lesson 1
It’s not your job to “save” or “fix” somebody. You can’t make them become a better person. They must want to be a better person themselves. Your only job is to take complete care of your own well-being. Be an inspiration for someone to be a better version of themselves, but quit trying to change who they are.
Lesson 2
If someone is hot and cold with their feelings about you, please just move the f*ck on right now. If someone is genuinely into you, it won’t need to be contemplated. You’ll know, without even having to ask
Lesson 3
It is much better to be alone than to be with the wrong person. Being with the wrong person can destroy you in ways you didn’t know were humanly possible. It will suck every last drop of life out of your soul.
Lesson 4
If you feel like the effort is one-sided then it probably is. Don’t waste your time and energy hopelessly trying to make something work out. If they aren’t willing to meet you halfway, they likely never will.
Lesson 5
Keeping it casual is A-okay, as long as you’re both A-okay with it. Casual dating becomes a problem when one person is asking more from the other. Be honest with what you want and never be ashamed of it.
Lesson 6
You’re not wasting your time if you don’t know whether or not you want to end up with the person you’re dating at the moment. Not all relationships end in happily ever after or marriage.
Every relationship gives us wisdom for the next time around.
Lesson 7
Love doesn’t have to always be the romantic kind. Love comes in all forms- friendships, relationships, partnerships. Love isn’t subjected to being romantic all the time. If you have people in your life that you love and love you back, you have love in its purest, rawest, most magical form.
Lesson 8
If you have even the slightest gut feeling that your significant other isn’t the one, listen to it. Dating is important because it teaches you what you want and what you don’t want. But, if you’re about to get serious with a person you aren’t even sure you’re all that interested in, don’t.
Lesson 9
Time is on your side, even if it feels like it isn’t. Don’t rush into something and settle for someone you aren’t even sure of just because you feel like the clocking is ticking. Time isn’t running out. Love takes time. It requires a tremendous amount of patience and dedication. You have all the time in the world to be happy in a relationship. But maybe for right now at least, it’s time to be happy with yourself.
Love doesn’t come with a handy guide or how to. It’s not always easy but if we allow ourselves to learn we can make not only ourselves better but our future relationships. We should want that and we should never give up on that. What lessons have you learned when it comes to love?
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