Love is a complex feeling. Most people, I am one of them, do not understand love. Let alone what it means to love different kinds of people.
Some people are easier or harder to love than others. Loving a girl who never believes she is good enough for you is one of the hardest loves you could ever experience. It will leave you confused and unfocused. Lost in your words and feelings.
If she never believes she is good enough for you she will constantly think you will leave her. She will find ways to keep the relationship from moving forward or going to the next base so she won’t get hurt. Feeling insecure about you and thinking you are too good for her will become her norm. You will cause her so much anxiety without even knowing you are.
It means talking to her at 3 a.m. when she’s breaking down. Telling her that everything happens for a reason and that you are in her life for a reason. It means dealing with all her insecurities. Staying up all night to calm her down and help her fall asleep.
It’s reassuring her that you’re not going to leave. It means she’ll love you deeply and uncontrollably. She’ll love you so much that it hurts her emotionally.
It means if you give her any reason to think you don’t love her, she will try to push you away. Thinking that if she does, it will hurt less because you at some point are going to leave her. Just like everyone else does.
It’s proving to her that you’re here to stay. Reassuring her that you don’t need someone “prettier” than her because she is all you want. And telling her she sounds stupid because you never planned on leaving.
It means showing her she is the only one you want. Bringing her flowers or buying her favorite candy. And making it a routine to prove that to her. Taking her back to the place you first met or reading her favorite book to her and if you have no idea what is going on because she will constantly believe that there is always someone prettier, smarter and more attentive to your needs than her. Grow with her and it will show her you want to stay.
But once she moves past all of her insecurities, she will love you in a way you never thought possible. She will give you all of her. She will put you on a pedestal and show you to everyone. She’ll make you your favorite meal even if she can’t cook.
She‘ll do your laundry just because she wanted to. She will watch you play your favorite video game even though she would rather be doing something else.
Loving a girl who never believes she is good enough is a long, winding road. But so is love itself. Once you find that person love can be a sweet, sweet thing. You just have to believe.
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