Losing the people who mean the most to us is not just a little loss that will agitate us during an ordinary day. It will feel as though there is a hole or emptiness in our hearts that will never heal. Our brains may seem set to mush, and we may begin to feel as though we have lost our minds.
Overthinking becomes garbled. We push ourselves towards hopelessness and we break. We carry the pain inside and stand alone in the wreckage of it all.
It stings and rips our hearts, punches them so hard as well as scars the soul because we think that we lost all possibilities, opportunities, and hopes. It can be unbearable and there are no right words that can fix everything.
But there is something pleasant about the kind of emotional pain that comes day after day. It is a realization that learning more on how to live a life as it has to be lived without them. We grieve and allow our hearts’ sorrow to spill forth. Yes, but we should learn how to accept and move on because one day, it’ll get easier.
Losing people we love is grief and nobody teaches us how to deal with it but one day at a time, we heal no matter what.
Grief steals away the good things in life – like sleepless humans; it steals away our good dreams and stays there when we start a new day. As humans, we are taught to expect and prepare for the grief that comes in our lives. Similarly, we are taught to focus on avoiding pain and moving towards a happy world. When life offers you a ton of shit in your coffee instead of cream, always remember: “this too shall pass.”
No matter what we do or where we are in this life, we deserve to heal, and we must learn to get better with time. Life isn’t easy and neither is love. As we continue to grow, we learn a multitude of things. We realize that the ones we love won’t always be there for us. Not everyone is permanent. And yes, nothing lasts forever.
No matter what we do or where we are in this life, tomorrow is not promised. So, let us make this moment count by choosing to heal our wounds and let the scars fade. That’s how beauty creates itself – through healing our scars with love.
No matter what we do or where we are in this life, we have to learn to free ourselves from the shackles of our grief because it doesn’t define our future. We must let go of the grief we feel so that love, happiness, and solitude can fill the void. So stop living in the past and make room for living in the moment. Always remember that the future will take care of itself.
No matter what we do or where we are in this life, we should never be afraid to imagine a future and enjoy the present moment.
And no matter what we do or where we are in this life, keep holding on a little bit longer and see the silver lining. Life does go on.
Originally published on Thought Catalog
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