Ah, anal sex. One of the most daunting suggestions for someone who’s never done it before (and maybe never wants to try it). If you’ve dated a guy, you’ve probably had them ask you about it. And with some guys, it may come off as them having a fascination with it, whereas many women may not understand the draw in the first place.
Out of curiosity, I interviewed a few guys to hear their reasoning behind enjoying anal sex or asking their partner for it. Note: many of the answers were repetitive, so I’ve curated a variety of responses with varying reasonings.
Here are some reasons your man may want to do anal, according to other guys:
“It feels different than a pussy but in a good way. The sensation is new but equally satisfying.” – Ryan, 24
“I love how taboo it is and how right it feels despite being ‘wrong’.” – Rich, 28
“My girlfriend is the one who really likes it — I’ll never say no to that.” – Khalid, 27
“Seeing it in porn all the time made me want to do it.” – Christian, 22
“It’s a dominance thing. When we do it, I feel like I have total control of her and I really like that.” – Cody, 26
“My girlfriend and I use it as a selfish perk. When the focus is on her for the night, I go down on her. Since she doesn’t like going down on me a lot, when it’s on me, we do anal.” – Cale, 24
“It’s a treat that only happens once in a blue moon like on my birthday. It’s just a nice change.” – Chris, 27
“I just want to have sex in anything I can fuck.” – Spencer, 29
“It’s something to brag about to my friends.” – Brian, 26
“The trust that comes with anal. I only do it with girlfriends so to me, it’s a sign that we’re serious and they trust me.” – Steve, 30
“It’s just something new to try — especially when you’ve been with the same person for a long time or your sex life is boring.” – Cole, 25
“I’m an ass man. I like spanking them, playing with them, licking them and fucking them.” – Drew, 25
“Because who wouldn’t?” – Jared, 28
By the sounds of this collective research, most men want to do it because it’s something new, to freshen up their sex life, or because (as Jared puts it) who wouldn’t? As daunting and painful as it may seem, there are also many ways to get familiarized and comfortable with doing the dirty from behind. Have an open conversation with your partner and bounce off ideas for what you are willing to do and not. Remember: you make decisions for what happens to your body.
And if you were curious about what all the hype is all about, well now you know.
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Men enjoy it because it’s the most intimate way to become one with their woman. As long as he doesn’t approach it in a manner of using his tool like a jackhammer and goes nice and slow, the woman should like it, maybe even come to enjoy it once she learns control, breathing, and how to relax. Men who just slam it in and begin pounding away ruin how truly intimate it can be for both
My boyfriend typically asks me for anal sex three or four times per week, and I always say yes. He is dominant, I am submissive, and we both enjoy the intimacy and intensity of anal sex. I let him tie my wrists tightly to the headboard of the bed if we’re having anal sex indoors. If outdoors, he may tie my wrists to a tree limb or a park bench or a swimming pool diving board or a chain-link fence. We never use a condom. He uses saliva as lube. I am not a masochist, but I am willing to submit to extremely severe pain for up to 30 minutes so long as it doesn’t cause me any permanent injuries. For example, he can fuck me anally “balls deep” for 30 minutes. Or he can use a leather belt to whip my buttocks and thighs for 30 minutes, causing me bruises, welts, and cuts; I can live with the soreness of such pain lasting a couple of weeks. He also can fist my anus and rectum, for 30 minutes, repeatedly thrusting his arm “elbow deep” into my asshole and then pulling back or out before thrusting it all the way in again. For me, it feels very fulfilling to know that I am single-handedly satisfying his most extreme sexual whims.
Dang Girl! I’m trying that with my man.
Cynthia I love you
Having read through this article, it seems clear that anal sex is a popular sexual activity among men, for various reasons ranging from exploration to pleasure to bragging rights. Men may find it appealing due to its novelty, its ability to add more intimacy to relationships, and even as a form of dominance over their partners. However, it’s important to keep in mind that while anal sex can be enjoyable, safety should always come first, including proper lubricant usage and protection against STIs.
Lol yeah right
Elbow deep … I’m not sure I believe that
I am sorry if your man is Treating you Right taking care of the kids and family working everyday He should most definitely be able to have anal sex with you as long as he doesn’t hurt you because trust me someone else will