When you’re in a long-term relationship and hope to marry your partner, it’s natural to want to know if your boyfriend feels the same way. While you might not exactly be able to read his mind, a few simple questions can show you where he stands.
The following questions are great for women who want to find out if their partner is ready to commit for life. If he’s hesitant, changes the subject, or stonewalls you, then it’s safe to say that he’s not looking for marriage.
On the other hand, if he says “yes” to these 10 questions, he’ll likely be happy to wife you up eventually.
1. “Do you see yourself with me in the long-term?”
If he asks you how long-term you’re talking, it’s safe to say that he sees your relationship as a placeholder. If he says “yes,” it’s safe to say that he’ll lock it down. And if he hesitates when you ask, it’s just a bad sign overall.
2. “How do you view marriage?”
If he hates the idea of marriage, he’ll never pop the question. End of story.
3. “Are most of your friends married?”
Men are notorious for following their friends’ leads. If his buds are hitched and he’s single, he’s probably looking to change that sooner rather than later.
4. “Are you looking for marriage?”
Sometimes you have to be blunt about where you want your relationship to lead. If he tells you that he’s not looking for a wife, believe him. If he’s vehemently anti-marriage, he’s clearly never going to be your husband.
5. “What age do you want to marry?”
Only ask him this question if he’s already said “yes” to question #4. Otherwise, your partner will likely freak out and ask you why you want to label your relationship.
6. “Do you want to have kids?”
Most men who want to have kids also want a marriage. If he wants to have a baby with you, he’ll probably propose to you soon enough.
7. “Do you see me as wife material?”
If he can’t say “yes” to this question, you need to break up with him immediately. Men know pretty early on when a woman is “wife material,” so if he seems unsure about you, he’s wasting your time and using you as a placeholder.
8. “Do you want to go on a vacation together next summer?”
A man who’s looking to pop the question will often try to make vacation plans and plans for other future adventures with you. This is a sign he’s looking to lock you down, so if he’s game for a trip to Rome or Paris, it’s safe to say that he’s invested in the relationship.
9. “Are you looking to grow with me?”
Marriage is about growth, and a guy who’s looking to marry will know this. If he’s not looking for someone to grow with, it’s not a good sign.
10. “Do you want to move in together?”
A guy who’s marriage-minded will not have an issue with moving in with you. A guy who’s scared of commitment will. It’s just that simple.
If you’re wondering where your partner stands on your relationship, asking him these 10 questions can clear everything up for you. Who knows – a ring could be just around the corner!
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a Jack-of-all-trades writer based out of Red Bank, New Jersey. When she’s not writing, she’s drinking red wine and chilling with some cool cats.
Originally published on YourTango
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