Life is unpredictable and messy. It can drown you in overwhelming feelings that make you run away. You spend so much of your time putting your love in the people and things around you, but you forget one thing: To put a little bit of love in yourself.
It’s sad when you offer all of your love to something that is temporary. Learning to love yourself again starts with mourning the fact that you forgot about yourself. Loving yourself again starts with forgiving yourself for everything that happened in the moments before. You put a lot of love into people who don’t deserve it, a career that may be not what you dreamed of, and experiences that you wish you could take back. And it’s ok that you did that. All that love can now be turned inward.
Loving yourself again means knowing who you are.
If you forgot who that was, find yourself again. Find out what made you so lost and negligent. Knowing yourself means finding out all the dark corners of your soul and figuring out what it all means to you.
Loving yourself means also knowing what you love to do.
Rediscover a hobby you left behind, or find a new hobby that you enjoy. Find new experiences to enjoy and live life to the fullest. Make hard decisions. Stop trying to make everyone happy and make a decision that is right for you. Cut people out of your life who are toxic and not serving a purpose in your life. Stop binge drinking to forget your problems or putting off going to your therapy appointment. Hard decisions are hard for a reason but making the right decisions for yourself means you already love yourself more than you know.
Loving yourself is setting all of your relationships right
Set boundaries and stop letting people get under your skin. Be vulnerable to the possibility that the people you want will always be there and that you will attract only people who you are meant to be. Make amends and apologize for your wrongdoings. Don’t hold people who are close to you for granted. Show up to those who are close to you. Send a text, make the phone call and be there for them. It will make you love yourself more.
No one ever said that loving yourself would be an easy process but everyone says that once you love yourself again that it will be worth it in the end.
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