You may have left the single life, but that’s no excuse to let go of your friends who are still there.
We get it; You are in love and have this fantastic guy in your life. That’s great! Sometimes though, it’s really easy to get caught up in your life as a couple — or if you have kids, as a family — and spending time with your single girlfriends becomes less and less of a priority.
It’s understandable that you’d want to do things with people in the same life situation as you, whether it be marriage, babies, or both. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t also spend time with your single friends, too.
Your single friend (or friends) may also have been your best friend. She was there with you long before you started settling down. You made some epic memories together that are a blast to reminisce on.
Because your single girlfriends care about you, they are so thrilled to see you happy, but at the same time, they don’t want to see your friendship fade away, either.
Maybe it feels like you can’t relate as much to your single girlfriends anymore. But, if it’s a genuine friendship, you will have more in common than just wild nights at the bar or looking for guys. OK, even if your single friends are still on a wild streak, that’s fine, too, because you know they have some fantastic stories to tell.
It’s important to remember that your single friends are still your friends. They will be sources of support and love in your life, regardless of their dating status.
If you haven’t seen some of your single girlfriends in a while, and you’re contemplating reaching out, consider why you should definitely see them.
1. They will get you out of the house.
‘night, anyone? Maybe it’s been a long time since you have had a proper night out on the town with your friends. No matter if we are in a new relationship or have been married for years, there’s nothing like a fun night out with your girlfriends.
You can get dressed up, go out for drinks, and dance the night away. You could also do a ‘getaway trip somewhere. While your other friends in relationships would rather stay in, your single girlfriends will insist upon a night out with them. They are there to help you have some fun.
2. They won’t judge you.
No one is the perfect girlfriend, wife, or mom. The thing is, though, we continue to hold each other to unattainable standards. The reality is as long as we are doing our best, that’s what counts. Your single girlfriends will not think you are a bad mom for admitting you feel tired and stressed out. They will be someone you can open up to in confidence.
Your single girlfriends won’t judge you for not having a fairy-tale relationship. Instead, they will love to make you laugh with hilarious dating horror stories that they are dealing with.
3. They can offer a different perspective when it comes to advice.
When we are struggling with something, whether it is personal or professional, it’s important to have good people in our lives who we can go to for advice. This is where your single girlfriends can come in. They are in a different places in their own lives, which also means they can offer a unique perspective on a particular topic. Having a fresh set of eyes and ears is a great way to find a new way to solve a problem, and your single girlfriends want to help you.
4. They miss you.
YES! They miss getting to spend time together one-on-one. Remember when you guys would catch up for hours over some wine? They know life is busy, but they also don’t want to lose your close friendship, either. If you’re only hanging out with your significant other, your single girlfriends may start to feel left out. Your friendship is important to them, and they just miss having time with the friend they know and love.
5. They love you as an individual, not just as part of a couple.
Sometimes when people are in a relationship, they can be seen by the world as just part of a couple and not as an individual. Instead of getting asked how you are, you become bombarded with questions about your boyfriend, spouse, or kids. It’s nice to have someone who will check in with how you are doing.
Your single girlfriends are less likely to see you as just part of a unit but rather as your own person. They will want to hear about your hopes and dreams, regardless of whether or not they pertain to your relationship.
6. They’re supportive of your relationship, but if he hurts you, they’ve got your back.
When you need a friend, your single girlfriends will gladly be there for you. They’re not going to be picking sides in a break-up because they were your friend, to begin with. After helping you get through the pain, they will be your biggest cheerleader as you move on.
Originally written by Jill Zwarensteyn on YourTango
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