We have all experienced the “honeymoon phase” during which we all jump into the newness of romance. However, I believe this shouldn’t be something that lasts. In my opinion, it’s unrealistic and can’t last forever in a healthy relationship. Here are my reasons why.
In the past, I had friends who, when they found a new love interest, were quick to tell me how amazing their partner was and how they couldn’t wait for me to meet them. When I did meet these people, I could often see things that my friends couldn’t. Sure, these people had good qualities, but my friends had rose-colored glasses on, choosing the ignore all the bad ones. Unfortunately, more often than not, I saw those relationships fizzling out months later.
In time, people’s “true colors” begin to show. The reality of all relationships, both romantic and platonic, is that they come with challenges. People begin to express their hopes and dreams, both big and small, and that’s when you might discover that your goals don’t align. We all know a relationship is supposed to be a partnership — the kind in which the other person helps you be your best self. Having similar motivations and dreams can be a great help in this.
The honeymoon phase isn’t intended to last forever.
The best relationships are the ones in which the individuals grow and evolve, both individually and as a couple. Everyone should have personal goals but also ones that they want to achieve with their partner. Relationships are all about finding balance while also creating closeness and intimacy. The ending of the honeymoon phase allows for more things to be seen and heard, and that’s not a bad thing. The honeymoon phase is something that can also be applied to friendships, family relations, and many other interpersonal connections. Where there is respect and communication, there can be a middle ground of understanding.
To build a relationship, it’s important to have those tough conversations. Talk about your goals, struggles, and opinions on everything, from family life to finances and where you would like to settle down. Talk about holiday traditions, love languages, and family dynamics. A relationship is meant to last and survive through the good, the bad, the ugly, and all of the in-between.
So, don’t be scared of letting the honeymoon phase come to an end. There is so much more ahead. And while it may be sad, you don’t know what will happen until you leave this phase. So, take the jump and see where it brings you.
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