There is truly nothing worse than the moment when your boyfriend becomes your ex. You just want to curl up in a ball and die. You firmly believe you will never love again — because how could you?
But you can love again and you can heal quicker if you follow this advice on how to get over a guy.
1. Let yourself be sad — but not for long.
When your heart breaks, it’s OK to be sad. Your friends will tell you to be happy and get on with your life. And that’s great advice.
But you can also allow yourself a little time to grieve. Stay home, rest, watch old episodes of Friends, and eat potato chips in bed. Just be sad if you need to.
Grieving is an important part of moving on. Just don’t grieve your relationship for too long, or you might lose yourself in your grief. The longer the relationship was, though, the longer you may need to grieve.
The good news is that once you finish feeling sad, the fun part starts.
2. Stick to an exercise routine.
There is no better antidote for a broken heart than getting in great shape.
The endorphins that exercise provides can lift your spirits immediately. Plus, the feeling you’ll get from rocking your ‘fit will be just what you need to make you feel confident enough to let that guy go.
Of course, it also won’t hurt when he sees you. Let him eat his heart out!
3. Start dating again.
I know that you don’t ready to love again yet, but after you grieve your relationship, you can definitely start dating again.
Dating is fun. You get to dress up and go out and have new experiences. You don’t have to fall in love again — you can just have fun.
Of course, you might find the guy who will make you stop thinking so much about your ex. That wouldn’t suck so much, would it?
4. Take a vacation.
A good way to get over a broken heart is to put some distance between you and your man. If you absolutely won’t run into him, you may have fewer relationship triggers in your life.
So plan a trip, change your scenery, and have some new adventures. Before you know it, you will have healed your heart.
5. Block your ex on all social media platforms.
When you face a breakup, sometimes a no contact period is essential to heal. You may want to talk with your ex to get some closure, but “closure” with an ex often leads to future meet-ups. Stalking your ex on social media will only lead to more heartbreak.
So block your ex’s number, unfriend him on Facebook, and remove him from your Instagram and Snapchat feeds. Don’t go to the places where he hangs out.
Do everything that you can to stay away from your ex, and you’ll heal. I promise.
There’s no one-size-fits-all way to get over a breakup, and you’ll likely cycle through the stages of breakup grief a few times before you finally feel like you’ve moved on for good.
Nothing feels worse than a broken heart. Still, a broken heart is a chance for you to start a whole new life, one full of love and health and adventure. It’s chance to get back out there and find the guy you should be with.
Grieve your loss and then get on with the rest of your life. You’ll be so glad that you did.
Originally written by Mitzi Bockmann on YourTango.
Featured Photo by Becca Tapert on Unsplash.
