Over the years, I’ve let people talk to me however they saw fit. I’m a relatively quiet person and confrontation is not my thing. So I let these people say what they needed, and I kept going on with my life — until I realized recently there’s no way on the planet why these people should speak to me with such disrespect.
Really?
You’re pissed so you’re going to take your anger out on me? You’re having a bad day so now I’m the one getting screamed at?
Oh, hell no.
I’ve gotten to the point where if you’re disrespectful towards me for a reason that I didn’t deserve I’m done with you.
Even if I did something that made you upset, you still don’t get to speak to me as if I’m a child and disrespect me.
I already have a mom, and she’s awesome. She did a damn good job at raising me and she thinks that I’m out of line, she will speak to me. This is not something that you need to be worried about.
What I choose to do is my decision.
If you don’t like it, you don’t have to say anything about it. You can keep your thoughts and opinions to yourself. But what you can’t do is disrespect me.
So now, when someone comes at me sideways, they’re met with me walking away and closing a door, hanging up a phone call, or sending a message.
If you can’t say what you need to say without attacking and berating me, maybe you don’t need to be speaking to me. Instead, you may need to talk to someone else who will allow you to get your anger out.
Because I refuse to be that person for anyone.
If you’re so angry that you need to attack someone, you shouldn’t speak to anyone until you’ve calmed down. Angry words are not something that you can take back.
Sometimes, people will come after you in a hostile manner, demanding things be done a certain way because they believe you “owe” them something.
Sweetie, I don’t owe you a damn thing. And I’m surprised that you think you’re special enough to demand anything from me.
When faced with such hostility, it can be tempting to retaliate. But I also know that it’s not a wise thing to do.
So, instead, I chose to remove and block them from my life, both online and offline. It’s my life, and I couldn’t be happier with this decision.
I’ve now applied this message to toxic people in my life.
Are you being mean to me? Calling me names? Blocked. Do you feel the need to scream and yell at me because you didn’t like something I chose to do? See you later.
I’m done with people thinking they can say whatever they want to me. Because you know what? I don’t have to do anything for anyone except myself.
And if you don’t like what I do, you don’t have to associate with me.
It’s as simple as that.
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Easily well said and put!