I’ve had many times in life where I’ve felt defeated.
Growing up, I’d especially feel this way when I didn’t get the marks I wanted in school. No matter how hard I studied, I couldn’t do better academically. I never got the grade point average that I wanted. As a result, I almost decided to give up; maybe I was never as gifted as I thought.
Later throughout life, I realized I picked the wrong postsecondary program. I wanted to switch out of it, so I applied to a new institution. But I felt defeated again because of my own decision and mistake.
I remember asking myself: what could be worse than this?
Later, life challenged me more than before. I got terminated from a few jobs, and I had to leave other gigs on bad terms with my employers. For a while, I felt stuck as a young adult trying to support myself without a college degree.
But in life, we all tend to experience decisions we later regret.
Maybe you made a bad career move or chose the wrong partner. Regardless of what it was, we dread the outcome. In hindsight, we wish that we could have known better.
However, making mistakes is inevitable in life.
Mistakes are difficult to prevent and mitigate. They just tend to happen; they’re part of human nature. Even if we try to avoid making them as much as possible, someday, we’ll end up in a pile of regretful decisions.
So, no, we can’t undo our actions. But we can look ahead. Life has much to show us, and we have many activities to try. As they say, the best is yet to come – as long as we keep working towards our goals.
You can always come back after defeat.
Remember: your mistakes don’t define you. You have so much more to offer in life. Eventually, you’ll learn from your mistakes and grow as a person. And, over time, you’ll notice a change; those harsh times taught you lessons you’ll hold on to forever.
Sure, it may seem difficult at the moment to overcome these challenges. You may feel overwhelmed about the events that are happening and devastated about how things are turning out. But with time and patience, you can fix anything.
In the end, you’ll find your way to move forward and battle through these challenges. And with more experience, you’ll come back, better than ever.
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