In life, you will meet people who always think they’re right. No matter what they do or the situation, they’re right, you’re wrong, and honestly, it’s hell with how you feel.
These individuals care solely about themselves. They act a certain way and do what they can to be the center of attention—always looking for ways to be spoken to or spoken about.
But if they do something that bugs you, and you suddenly decide to say something or get mad, you’re the bad guy.Â
You get upset and react as any normal individual would, and suddenly, they don’t understand why you’re acting a certain way and what caused you to respond like this. In reality, they were the ones who threw the bone, and they said something that turned into something else. When you had a reaction they weren’t expecting, suddenly they didn’t understand why you were acting upset with them.
They’re confused, but they know the action that they took. They know what their intention behind taking action is.Â
But if you acted this way towards them, they’d probably call you out on it if you said or did something out of line or simply not your business. You would be told to stop, “Hey, that makes me feel uncomfortable, “and be expected to listen. But this person can say, think, or do whatever they want because that’s what they assume.
Sure, sometimes we react to things in ways that are not always ideal or maybe seem unnecessary, but if someone does something that makes you uncomfortable, your feelings are valid. You’re human, and you’re allowed to feel emotions.
And if you’re brave enough to speak up (which can be challenging!), you’re met with “this hurt you, but in reality, it hurt ME,” and how it’s your fault you responded this way. In reality, the reason why you reacted the way you did was due to the actions that they chose to take.
When they find out they made you feel this way, this person will do anything but apologize.
They’ll call you names, place the blame on you, say things that they know will hurt you, and do everything in their power to make it seem like we’re the one to start all this.Â
It’s emotionally abusive.Â
Go ahead and try to fight me on it. But if you’re choosing to call people names and say things to them that you know will hurt them because of a situation that you caused, you’re being abusive to that person.Â
I’ve ended relationships with people based on how they treated me. It doesn’t matter how we’re connected or how close we are. You don’t get to speak to me like this, and you won’t continue to keep doing it. I’ve let people walk over me for too long, and I’m now stopping it.
So go ahead and say what you need to tell me. Go ahead and get mad, get angry, call me names. But when I call you out, remember that two things will happen. Either I’ll blow up, or it will be the scariest thing you see. Or you’ll never hear from me, and honestly, I don’t know which is worse for you. Â
In life, you will meet people who say things they feel they need to say. It might make you uncomfortable, but stand your ground. You don’t have to let them speak to you like that; you can call them out. When people show their true colors to you, listen to them. Because they’re telling and showing you who they truly are. And you don’t need people like that in your life at all.
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