Sex is an undeniable part of most relationships. Regardless of how often you do the deed, it should feel pleasurable and exciting. However, our own problems and professional lives consume us so much that we forget about our lovers. While everyone ends up in occasional “love ruts,” consistently not having sex can ruin even the most stable relationships.
What causes someone to stop wanting sex in a relationship?
Experts say that people often blame their lack of interest, old age, or changing habits. This can happen in a long-term relationship as well as someone just starting to see each other. Sometimes, the reason you’re not making love as much is simple, like working long job hours or being on medications that drop libido, but other times, your sexless relationship can signify underlying problems.
In fact, partners subtly show each other that they may not trust each other when they refuse physical intimacy. Since trust is a vital component of every healthy long-term partnership, refusing to have sex can cause significant damage to the relationship.
A lack of sex can also cause other issues that ultimately affect your relationship in many harmful ways.
Once both partners establish a sex life together, any change in the pattern they created causes paranoia and fear. Each person in the relationship starts wondering whether they’re still attractive or if their partner is having an affair.
So what can you do to avoid ending your relationship?
Therapists and psychologists have a lot to say about rebooting your sexual life. They often recommend that struggling couples attend couples counseling, which can aid their communication issues. Conversely, a couple struggling with their sex lifecould try switching to an open relationship if both parties agree. This, in turn, would allow the partner with the higher libido to get sex somewhere else while still maintaining the emotional connection within the relationship.
There’s no one real answer When your sex life declines, there’s no single answer to the problem, but it certainly doesn’t mean that your relationship is over.
Obviously, whether or not you engage in sexual intercourse is a personal choice. Nevertheless, if a couple started their relationship off with healthy sex life, a sudden change in the frequency of sex can signify issues that the partners should address. If you’re struggling with your sex life, a simple conversation with your partner is a great place to start. Communicating will help you both understand how you both can stay sexually fulfilled. Perhaps it’s a simple misunderstanding that you and your partner can solve together!
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