It can be painful when a female friendship ends. But at the same time, some relationships need to end. If the relationship is now stressful or frustrating, it’s relieving to end it. The pain of learning how to move on can consume you, but it’s worth it.
We know that when one door closes, another one opens. Stay focused on quality gal pals who are positive-minded and bring out your best.
As we mature, we have less friends as we prioritize quality over quantity.
A study from NBC News shows that most people have only two true friends. That may sound like a small number, but not if you consider who you really trust with your innermost feelings.
If you have more than two quality girlfriends, great! If you have fewer than two meaningful friendships, don’t worry. You can always cultivate more. Social media like Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, and Pinterest can provide great places to develop surface-level, online friends. In fact, I’ve met some of my best girlfriends online.
Think about your current friends. Consider working toward a deeper bond with them. Trust your gut feeling. Have confidence in yourself and your values to attract the right friend.
Over time, I’ve realized that, when a female friendship ends, it doesn’t mean one person is better than the other. It just means we moved into different life directions.
Sometimes, people differ so much that communication and personal growth become challenging. That’s when it’s time to let go.
After a female friendship breakup, keep a clear head and think about the good times. Don’t beat yourself up or think negative thoughts about them.
Remember, what you think and feel manifests into your life in physical form. It’s a combination of the universal law of perpetual transmutation and the universal law of vibration (that is, what you think about, you bring about).
This positive emotional thinking will draw to you a new friend with the good qualities you’re focusing on and enjoyed in that former friendship.
When friendships end, it means two friends are going in different directions and that the partnership has served its purpose. It’s okay to let it end. This opens the door for a new friendship.
When I was 22, I read a magazine article that changed my life. I learned that friendships have a lifetime — a beginning and an end. It put my mind to rest because I had a friend at the time who was a challenge to be around. Unfortunately, she was the only other single girlfriend I had.
We were certainly not going in the same direction; her opinions and beliefs changed as quickly as the direction of the wind, so I never knew what she was going to say or do. Now I understand we were friends out of our scarcity mindset: “We have no other single girlfriends.”
Reading that article gave me permission to end my friendship with her. I didn’t need permission, of course. But when we come upon information that makes sense and feels like it’s rescuing us from an uncomfortable situation, we give ourselves permission to make a positive move we may not have otherwise made, or else would have made with reservations.
From that experience in my 20s, I learned that it’s healthier and much less stressful to be alone for awhile rather than choosing the wrong friends out of desperation.
Back then I lacked the necessary confidence in myself to feel comfortable alone or to go places by myself. Now, I find it refreshing and I’m grateful for all of the female friendships that have guided and supported me along my path to loving myself and my life.
I was extremely surprised as it sounded like I’d made more of a positive impact on her life than I had realized. That felt good, but after considering it further, I realized that if she was still the same person, my success in business and coaching, as well as my public persona were most likely the attractive parts of our friendship for her.
Although I’ve always expressed my gratitude for her and the fun things we did when we hung out together, she’s an example of a friend who was out of alignment with my personal growth and where I was headed in my life.
From that experience in my 20s, I learned that it’s healthier and much less stressful to be alone for awhile rather than choosing the wrong friends out of desperation.
Back then I lacked the necessary confidence in myself to feel comfortable alone or to go places by myself. Now, I find it refreshing and I’m grateful for all of the female friendships that have guided and supported me along my path to loving myself and my life.
Originally published by Kelly Rudolph on YourTango
Photo by Briana Tozour on Unsplash
