The dating world can be very confusing, especially in today’s age of apps and online dating. Because there are so many love choices, you inevitably create a list of qualities and interests you’re looking for, but you may not realize that you’re missing out on a great way to find your soulmate: using your intuition.
Without intuition, you get caught up in what you think you know in your search. The problem is that these actions are taken with your conscious mind and ego, where finding love is a matter of the heart.
Only the heart knows what is really great for you, but the problem these days is that the mind is getting in the way. The mind’s argument can be that you can’t always trust the heart, so you need to listen to your intuition.
The ultimate goal of a relationship is to teach you how to love, and in the process, there are many lessons to learn. Your heart knows the lessons you must understand, but your mind doesn’t.
Falling in love is letting go of the ego, so how can the ego know what is good for you? This is why the best guide is your intuition. It’s aligned with your higher purpose, as is your heart.
So, how do you use intuition?
First is to be open to the fact that you may need to reach a certain emotional balance to attract the right person.
Second is recognizing all the signs and messages the universe gives you, which tend to come in mysterious codes.
Third is healing yourself within the lessons to achieve higher levels of emotional balance.
On a journey to find your soulmate, your experiences will teach you lessons on your emotional imbalances. There is always some baggage that you need to get out of the way, as well as ideas that you may need to get out of the way about who your soulmate is.
For example, you may think that your soulmate has to get along with one of your best qualities. The truth may be that you need to be challenged to develop this quality. Therefore, your soulmate may be meant to be very different in one significant quality.
However, that will change as you get more in touch and expand your quality through the challenges.
Intuition works mysteriously, so looking for signs, connections, mysterious coincidences, feelings, etc., is important. Once you get the hang of this, you can trust it and put your ego aside.
This will lead you to make giant leaps in your journey to finding your soulmate. This process also gives you the power to stop searching. You always tend to meet people when you’re not looking so hard.
You are just surrendering yourself to the experience. As long as you put yourself out there, things are bound to happen. As you put the agenda of the ego aside, you stop wanting things so severely, which always ends up working against you.
In the process, it’s essential to use this perspective to get over obstacles. Otherwise, you may just drag yourself down for no reason. A failed date can then be a message for you of a deeper meaning of what you need to learn.
Sure, it’s painful to experience failure, but it is important to let it pass through without judgment so you can see the meaning afterward.
Taking some space and time to reflect on this with a calm mind can be very healing. If you beat yourself up over it, you may never see the meaning and add more baggage you’ll have to get through eventually.
Taking this perspective toward finding true love can be immensely fun and fulfilling! Then, your soulmate can show up when you don’t expect it, and you may only recognize this after a few dates.
Originally written by Matthew Butcher on YourTango
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