Your Body Tells You The Truth — Here’s How To Listen To It

Oct 16, 2023

From the moment you’re born to the moment you die, the only thing you can rely on is the sensation of being in your body.

Even before you could conceptualize thoughts or realize you had feelings, your body has told you if you were feeling good or not. Newborns know that they are safe because their body is content, at peace, and relaxed. On the other end, growing up in a physically or emotionally unhealthy environment will create tensions that will resurface when least expected.

As we grow up we often learn to ignore the signals our bodies send us. We pretend it’s “just physical pain”. We hope it will disappear on its own. We take pills to mask the sensation. We even pretend it doesn’t exist. But our body continues talking to us. And if we “forget” to listen, it screams for us to hear it.

The following examples remind you why you need to listen to your body and hear its message to heal physically and emotionally.

Your body will know the truth even before you know it

It happened just ten years ago. I had booked an out-of-town romantic weekend in Manhattan for my husband’s fiftieth birthday. For no apparent reason, as soon as he landed in NYC, my stomach started cramping and I felt terribly sick, throwing up from morning to night and running a low-grade fever.

The doctor diagnosed me with “stomach ulcer,” but no matter how many pills I swallowed, I stayed sick for the following weeks. This changed two months later when my husband told me he wanted a divorce. The news devastated me, but after that first night of crying, the nausea receded and disappeared.

The pain in my belly vanished within forty-eight hours of our separation. But another type of pain replaced it, this one linked to the heartbreak, but the awful clinching in my stomach disappeared as by magic.

Looking back at it, I realized that, like a kid in pain, my subconscious had no words to express that something felt off. Children will not tell you they are anxious, but they will tell you that their tummy hurts. My subconscious could feel the anxiety, the tension about the state of our relationship before I even knew of it. Once the tension linked to the uncertainty disappeared, the pain went away.

Listen before it’s too late

One of my early clients, John, complained about aches and pain in his stomach. His wife had just left him for another man and he felt deeply hurt. John’s feeling of betrayal connected to his childhood trauma and made total sense.

We needed to address the PTSD coming from his childhood and the pain from the current situation. Unfortunately, he had no intention of letting go of the anger nor of his sense of righteousness. Actually, he took pride in the deep pain he described as “a punch in the gut each time he thought about her”.

Only you can choose to let go. In John’s case, he refused to forgive. He held onto the pain as a symbol of his love. The toxicity of the body sensation accumulated over time. And after a few months, the doctor diagnosed him with stomach cancer.

Your body talks to you, but only you can listen and appease it. Acknowledging the message is the first step, and choosing to love yourself enough and letting go of the emotional hurt is the only way you can change your emotional pain and ultimately your physical one.

What each type of pain tells you

You do not have little pain or big pain. Each part of your body talks in its own language.

Headaches: You may be overthinking a situation and feel lost or confused.
Shoulder and neck pain: Do you feel tired of carrying everyone on your back?
Back pain: Do you feel concerned about your physical or emotional safety?
Stomach pain: Do you feel anxious about the future?
Urinary Tract Infection: What makes you feel “pissed off” right now?
Knee pain: Do you have a hard time choosing a direction?
Shortness of breath, heart pain: Heartbreak feels like your heart shatters into millions of pieces. It can even lead to a heart attack if not addressed.

I could go on and on and there is actually a very good dictionary to guide you. You can also simply listen to your personal message and ask your body: “What are you trying to tell me?”

Stop judging yourself for experiencing pain

Don’t shoot the messenger. Your body is simply trying to send you information. Judging your body or pretending the pain doesn’t exist would be like punishing a kid who is crying because he’s hurt. It’s true that many children, especially young boys were taught to not feel their feelings.

Sentences like “Boy don’t cry,” “Stop being a cry baby,” and “Get over it” can have long-term effects. Even worse: “Let me give you a good reason to cry” expressed by a parent smacking their kid for expressing emotions can actually teach the child to hold their feelings in. I even worked with a client whose father was beating her each time she struggled with a school concept.

His words were “I punish you because I love/care about you.” It created total confusion in her psyche about what love meant but also about what pain was.

Over time, a child who is not allowed to express his feelings will not even be able to identify what is going on. They will grow up as adults who simply push through things until their bodies will scream to stop. By then, instead of a simply uncomfortable sensation showing they are not in alignment with their purpose, they might experience deep pain or serious illnesses like cancer.

Love is the first step toward healing

Self-care is such a cliche and from bubble bath to massage, exercising and healthy nutrition modern society tells us to take care of our body. This is essential at a different level.

Taking care of your body will send to your brain the message that you matter. When was the last time you said “I love you” to yourself? This message of love can be expressed in words but also through physical touch.

Treat your body as if you were taking care of a baby. Be soft and gentle. Listen to what gives it pleasure and what hurts. Ask it what it needs to develop and feel healthy. If your body hurts, don’t ignore it, don’t judge it. Instead, be patient, and ask “what are your trying to tell me?”

Disease or dis-ease of the body?

I’m not telling you to skip the doctor’s office and meditate to heal by the power of your thought. By the time your body hurts or you’re sick, the toxic pain has been expressed in your body for a long time.

Traditional medicine will help you to address some of the symptoms. Unfortunately, if the source of the pain you’re experiencing is linked to trauma (big or small), the pain won’t go away until you take care of that trauma or it will go away — only to come back later in another form.

Physical and mental health should work hand in hand, so take the time to hear what your body has to say about your current situation and if you are in pain, start by asking yourself “What is going on in my life that is creating this dis-ease?” Once you have the answer, find love for yourself, forgive your body for having to scream, reconnect to your joy, and allow your body to heal.

Originally published by Dr. Fabienne Slama on YourTango

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