Throughout our lives, people often try to pry into our business, mainly our personal and love lives. Sometimes, we selectively choose what to share for various reasons—maybe we’re concerned about their reaction or want to avoid judgment. In other cases, we feel it’s nobody’s business but our own.
I’ve noticed this, especially when it comes to love. We all do it: We scroll on Instagram, see that Suzie and Jason aren’t together anymore, and run to tell our friends, wondering what happened because we thought they’d be together forever. We all have an undeniable curiosity about love stories, even those that aren’t ours. Maybe it’s the mystery or the hope we find in someone else’s journey that captivates us.
But when it comes to my own love life, I prefer to keep it private.
There’s something special about having a little world that belongs to you and the person you care about, a place where no one else can peek in. Even if someone catches a glimpse, they won’t know the whole story—the private moments, the little secrets, the things only you share.
That’s why I don’t talk about my love life much. I keep it close, revealing it only to the people I trust. And recently, I’ve come to understand something pretty incredible.
I’m single right now—as single as can be. Sure, there are moments when someone might catch my eye, but I’m single as a dollar for now. And you know what? I don’t think I’ve ever seen this content. Being single has given me the space to focus entirely on myself and understand who I am without anyone else’s influence. It’s a freedom I didn’t fully appreciate until now.
Yes, I’d love someone to hold my hand on a walk or bring me coffee in the morning. But before stepping into any relationship, I’ve realized that you must learn to love yourself completely. This time alone has been like a lesson in self-compassion. I’m discovering what makes me laugh, what brings me joy, and what I need to be my happiest self.
After all, how can you expect someone to love you if you can’t do that for yourself?
I genuinely believe self-love is the foundation for any relationship. When you love yourself, you stop looking for someone to fill a void and instead look for someone who adds to the happiness you’ve already created.
Lately, I’ve been doing things that have made me fall in love with myself. I’ve been taking walks, finding enjoyable activities, and focusing on being the happiest version of myself. I went from fearing I’d end up alone to utterly okay with it. I’m becoming my best friend and the love of my own life. I’ve realized that my own company is not only enough but also genuinely enjoyable.
I laugh and feel like myself, and I’ve learned it’s okay to be me. I’m genuinely happy with who I’ve become. And this happiness doesn’t depend on anyone else; it’s mine. Knowing that has been empowering and liberating in ways I never anticipated.
These past five years haven’t been easy.
I’ve been through more than many people my age, and there were times I felt like I’d hit rock bottom, wondering if I’d ever get back to who I was before everything happened. But here I am, thriving, and life feels so good. It’s a reminder that even the most challenging times eventually pass, and we become more robust and wiser on the other side.
Yes, I’m still single and figuring things out, but a relationship can wait. I don’t need someone else to define my worth or validate how amazing I am. I’m learning that true confidence comes from within and that the right person will love the real me, not just the highlights.
The right person will come at the right time, and though some days can feel frustrating, I know it will be worth the wait. This journey has taught me that everything unfolds in its own time, and patience is part of the process.
Until that person enters my life, I will keep growing and becoming the person I’m meant to be. I’m great, and anyone who thinks otherwise isn’t worth my time or energy. And when the right person does come along, I’ll be ready, not because I need them but because I want them to share in the life I’ve created for myself.
So, to anyone curious about what I’m up to—keep looking. But I promise you won’t find anything unless I choose to share it. And that’s the way I like it.
Featured image via Richard Jaimes on Unsplash
