It may be hard to believe, but there is a constant inner struggle when it comes to being a single woman. Most people think, it is black and white – a single girl is just desperate to get hitched, pop out some kids, and call it a life. A life with a drooling dog that you are constantly cleaning up after or a life with a man who you are constantly cleaning up after. Let’s face it, there are pros and cons to both walks of life, but when it comes down to it, it is not easy to be single by choice. Here are the inner thoughts of a single lady:
“I love being single.” I love the freedom of knowing I am on my own and can do anything I want. I do not need a man to provide for me. I love that I don’t have to answer to anyone about why I just spent $500 on a psychic for my dog or explain why I was out until 5 AM at Denny’s eating a Grandslam with some random people I met at a comic book store. I love that I don’t have to fake anything. I love the simple fact that I do not have to worry! I love that I am not crying over a man lying to me about losing his phone yet it is in his hand, cheating on me with a dirty stripper, or blowing me off because he was too hungover to see the Minion movie. I love that I can literally spend my weekends in bed with my dog watching reruns of Gilligan’s Island if I wanted to, because I am free to do as I please.
And yet,
“I am tired of being single.” I am tired of waiting around for “prince charming”. I am tired of putting myself out there and finding myself in yet another situation with a man who either wants me to be his mother, cleaning up after him and feeding him like a helpless child, or Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman without the pay out or fancy clothes. I want butterflies. I want someone to want me as much as I want them. I want someone to ask me how my day was and genuinely want to listen. I want someone to contact me first and not act like it is an inconvenience on his life. I want someone to actually want to see me and take me on a date. And by date, I MEAN A DATE. Not Netflix and Chill. You know that thing where you go out to eat, drink, be merry, and have an actual conversation?
But then,
Comes the thought – I am probably going to grow old as a dog woman, because we live in a century where this kind of stuff doesn’t happen anymore. The more that the world evolves, the more men evolve into this figure where they think that chivalry does not need to exist anymore. The male species has evolved into this breed that thinks a girl should be the one making all the effort to forming a relationship and that “Netflix and chill” is somehow “romantic”. There are men out there that just want everything handed to them without having to put an effort to it. Women always want something more than the weekend fun that you are willing to give. She may say to you that they are fine with it, but that is never the case. In the back of her mind, she have already imagined how this story is going to change in her favor and that you are going to take her in your arms between commercial breaks, picking up your phone to change their relationship status on Facebook and promising to never “Netflix and Chill” with anyone else, because we have come to expect the very least from men. Dear Lord, is this really how low a woman’s expectation has fallen to?
But if,
George Clooney can be converted after how many years, then there is hope for us all. All men can not be like this – I am not just a magnet for the attention seeking, dumb witted, drunken Netflixing idiots who do not know how to spell. I can put myself back out there. Hell this could even be fun! It would be nice to get out of the house once in a while, take a break from my normal Friday nights of drinking hot tea and watching 20/20. It has been how long since I have been out with a new guy, how bad can it be?
And then,
You remember that last idiot who broke your heart. That is the moment I put my yoga pants back on, locate the wine, and spend another comfy night at home with my furry best friend, and remember that it is good to be single.
With this all being said – gentlemen, chivalry is not dead. You will get so much further with a woman when you put a little work into it and make an effort. And to my lady friends, remember to stay positive! There are good guys out there! Maybe that is the optimism or wine talking, but you must have faith. Good things come to those who wait! If you don’t want to wait, there is a TLC show that allows your parents to pick out your husband for you.
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