Believe it or not, men are very simple creatures. What they say is pretty close to what they mean. What they say may not be crystal clear to us because we are more contextual and emotional in our thought process. This is why it’s inevitable for women to try to find meaning in a man’s lightest utterance.
A lot of men say things in a way to try to get their point across without getting our feelings hurt, cause drama, or an emotional scene.
Here’s a little guide for some of the basic things that men say and what they actually mean.
1.- I’m not really looking for a relationship right now.
Translation: “I’m being honest. I don’t want a relationship with you. I’m not making any promises about us having a future together, but we can still have sex.”
2.- I’m okay
Translation: “I’m not really okay, but just let me be. I’d prefer to deal with this on my own. Please stop asking me what’s wrong, because the more times you ask the less okay I actually feel.”
3.- I really like you but..
Translation: “You’re smart, funny and attractive. I like you but I don’t see myself being with you. Can we still hookup?”
4.- Netflix and chill
Translation: “Come over, let’s watch a movie or two then let’s get naked and have sex”.
5.- I don’t want to ruin our friendship
Translation: “I’ve never thought about dating you, and I don’t like you enough to change my mind. I am not physically attracted to you. But you are my friend and I don’t want to hurt your feelings.”
Men are sexual creatures and if he doesn’t feel sexually attracted to you then don’t waste your time trying to escape the friend zone.
6.- I’ve been busy
Translation: “I am not interested enough to make time to see you or make plans with you”
7.- I am not sure where our relationship is going, I need time to think
Translation: “I am having doubts about you, I don’t think you are the right woman for me. I need time to decide how I am going to break up with you.”
8.- I don’t post who I date on social media.
Translation: “Sure, we have fun together and I like spending time with you but I am still testing the waters and fishing around. I don’t want other women to think I am taken.”
9.- I don’t want to hurt your feelings
Translation: “ I don’t want you to get attached to me or have feelings for me when I don’t feel the way same about you.”
10.- Okay, I’m sorry
Translation: “I’m tired of arguing, okay you win, now will you shut the hell up?”
11.- I love you
Translation: (after sex) “Wow, this was one of the best sex experiences I’ve ever had. I look forward to getting freaky with you again.”
Translation: (any other time) “I really like you, you are an amazing woman and I don’t want to be with anyone else.”
12.- We should hang out sometime
Translation: “I am attracted to you, I want to take you on a date.”
13.- I don’t do relationships
Translation: “I want to keep my options open in case someone better comes along, but I want to keep fucking you. But don’t go anywhere because I like to have you around as my backup plan.”
14.- I don’t care either way
Translation: “Will you make up your mind already? I really don’t have an opinion about this anyways. Whatever you choose is really fine with me. The quicker you decide the better.”
15.- Nice jeans
Translation: “Your ass looks amazing.”
16.- Nice shirt
Translation: “Nice pair you have there miss.”
17.- You deserve better
Translation: “You are a great woman, but I can’t give you what you want and need, please move on.”
18.- I miss you
Translation: (if you have been dating for awhile) “I miss spending time with you.”
Translation: (if you are not in a serious relationship but have hooked up a few times) “I miss your vagina and I want to have sex with you again.”
19.- Did you cum?
Translation: “I am not sure how well I performed during sex, I need you to give me some validation so it can boost my ego.”
20.- We will see
Translation:“ You’re not really getting the hint and I am trying to find ways to avoid making plans with you so I don’t hurt your feelings with rejection.”
21.- Who is that this guy?
Translation: “I am definitely feeling jealous, who is this dude? Do you like him? Have you fucked him? Do you want to fuck him?”
22.- I was kidding
Translation: “I actually meant what I said, I didn’t think you would overreact. Can you just calm down?”
23.- It’s not you, it’s me
Translation: “It’s definitely you, but I won’t tell you that because I don’t want you to start crying.”
24.- I want to be with you
Translation: “I want to be with you.”
25.- I have too much going on in my life right now
Translation: “Yes, I am trying to figure out my life right now, but you’re not a priority. ”
Next time you find yourself scratching your head trying to figure what he means, use this as your online bible to translate the most common things that men say and what they likely really mean.
However if you are constantly trying to figure out how a man feels about you, then deep down inside you know, this is not the right man for you.
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Stop making men out to be sex addicts who don’t give a shit about anyone. Whoever hurt you- they are not an excuse for you to come onto here and post shit like this, making generalizations about men. Not acceptable. Horrible post.